Lately, I have been thinking about relationships. Not person to person relationships, but the relationships which are required between ourselves and our service providers; between ourselves and the things we own and use; and the relationships between ourselves and the dreams, desires, and asperations which come together to create the people we are and the priorities that we have.

I know...deep subject. Still, I have never before realized that all of these things were relationships. Thinking this way has given me a new respect for the process of living out each day. For instance, the phone call that comes and seeks my help with a project. How I respond should reflect the honest relationship which I have with the person, with the organization, and with my own capabilities, rather than just a response which reflects a desire to "be nice."

No, I haven't been reading my paranormal psychology textbook, again. ha ha ha

Investigating and learning about these types of relationships can only make my writing better. Once I come to understand just how these different types effect a person's life, I can write more rounded characters, with a wider range of attributes-good and bad.

I was thinking about why people continue to do things long after they have stopped having any joy from them, or even are capable of doing them well. Relationships, of any kind, are hard to walk away from. Why an elderly character would continue to garden long after arthritis has made it an extremely painful occupation. She has a relationship with the garden, with the work, and with the entire process of planing, tending then reaping. Even painful relationships are hard to walk away from. Understanding that, makes the woman a bit more human. While on the outside, the world sees her crabby nature, on the inside we can see her clinging to what is common for her. Clinging, as it were, to a relationship which has long since needed to be terminated. Anger is just fear turned inside out.

Okay, that is my rant today. Be blessed, and remember...relationships with people take time to build, but can be destroyed in an instant. Treat them with care, love and respect.
Jude